He’s here!

Long time no chat… but I had to pop by between wiping a very cute bum and trying to find a shower for myself to report:


The last 13 weeks have flown by. Motherhood seems to suit me much better than I expected.

Every day I thank all powers that be for our son. He’s really an inspiration.

And I’ve apparently become a mushy cliche-slinger in the meantime.



My available topics of conversation over the past few months: baby, baby, labour, breasts, baby, baby, labour, labour, hope, breast, baby, baby, labour, baby, dog.

The poor poor dog.Voodoo

I understood in theory that The Dog would have to take at least a temporary backseat to the offspring since she’s relatively self sufficient while a newborn human will need the time we have historically devoted to the dog. We’re five weeks away from the estimated due date of the Offspring and oh, the poor poor dog. As it’s happening before my eyes and the dog hasn’t had a walk in at least 4 days and I think I forgot to feed her supper last night and she’s still following me around the house with deep affection in her eyes – I have Le Guilt. The offspring isn’t even HERE yet but just having him fully embraced in my pelvis has me choosing to be a neglectful dog mom.

Today I committed to refocus on my girl. We walked/waddled for an hour, I minded good posture while she minded sniffing all the parts of the neighbourhood that she hadn’t smelled for awhile. It felt good to wander the ‘hood to do a few errands and I do love walking with the beautiful, focused, prancing pooch.  It was a relief to see her continually adjusting to my new physical self where I am slower and more awkward than I was a few short months ago. Today The Dog would pause and take a glance behind her to make sure I was still coming along behind. The Dog, she patiently walked me.

We’ve been told that The Dog can already hear the Offspring’s heart beat from deep within my body, smell my different pheromones and I’m sure that’s why she’s become more focused, more affectionate, more  concerned with me than ever before. As we get ready for the newest member of the family to arrive, we’ve stepped up The Dog’s  training to commands like “leave it” to prepare for her first encounter with baby vomit, diapers and other things she’s sure to deem delicious. She’s been introduced to a newborn and was very focused on helping clean his cradle-capped head with her giant tongue and thus, we have deemed her as having much potential as a big sister.

I keep picturing a gorgeous autumn day in October or November when The Dog can walk both myself and her little brother around the neighbourhood. I hope we can keep the small human alive and well while continuing to ensure that The Dog, the first of our dependent family members, continues to be healthy and happy.

Thank gawds her patience is easily bought by a big disgusting bloody bone. I’d better stock my freezer.

guilty and blessed


Wow, it’s rather echo-y in here, isn’t it? I shouldn’t be surprised – I threw white cloths over the furniture, turned off the lights and shut the door behind me in the middle of January. I wasn’t really sure if I’d be back, I didn’t even hire a house-sitter (or blogsitter as it may be) because I needed to step far away and I couldn’t gauge how long I’d need. I even stopped posting on Grace In Small Things because every entry would show exactly what was going on in my world and I wasn’t ready to face being happy.

I have a case of survivor’s guilt. And paranoia that putting my thoughts into the world makes them significantly more real and thus more readily available to fail. Silly. 7 months without and I miss this space greatly since I need the catharsis and an outlet. Without it, I find I’m mentally itching. I’m not processing thoughts as well as I could yet I stayed away because I have significant traffic that arrives from pregnancy loss websites and I remember being that person, searching for solace, searching for sameness, searching for answers. I remember being that person and showing up to a site with a happy pregnant lady or happy baby and feeling the punch in the gut of envy. As much as it made me feel so bad to be so upset at another’s joy, it’s a form of post traumatic stress disorder where even the thought of what I didn’t have put me into a new cycle of grief.

And now, I’m that happy pregnant lady.

We’ve become blessed beyond imagine, found hope after darkness and from where we’re standing, it’s starting to feel like we’ll really-for-sure-no-joking be welcoming a very small person into our lives in mid-October. Every kick, every nauseating morning, every swollen appendage – it’s a constant reminder that we’re so very blessed. It’s marvelous and magical and confusing and exhilarating and every day I want to hold in my memory forever because I can’t stop marveling at this experience. Part may be hormonal where I’m weeping while trying to choose a baby memory book, realizing that this is finally happening. My body is so far working the way it should and although every day is tinged with fear, I’m starting to focus less on losing this baby and more on how to do right by him once he takes his first breaths on his own.

Our first ultrasound was in mid-February. I laid on the table trying to hold myself together, waiting for the sonographer to tell me she couldn’t find the baby, struggling to hold back tears and fighting nearly overwhelming terror. I had the urge to get off the table and just walk away before she could break the bad news. When she said “baby has a strong heartbeat” offhandedly, the dam burst. I was sobbing, sobbing so hard because finally, oh heaven’s finally, a sonographer was giving me good news while I laid covered in jelly. I wept so hard, trying to explain how happy I was between sobs and the tech quickly called in The Husband who had been in the waiting room. He saw that little heart beat as he walked in the room and the joy actually overwhelmed our trepidation. This baby was nestled in my uterus, heart beating fast and strong.

Thinking about it still makes me cry.

Thus I remain, feeling blessed and guilty at the same time and desperately hoping that this feeling of overwhelming grace is found in some way by all those that are searching for it.

Because even with the taint of fear, it’s a marvelous journey.